three lists

The Rights of a Relationship:
This is from the YWCA site. I think it's a pretty cool list:
• The right to share equally with your partner in all decisions and responsibilities.
• The right to have friendships with both women and men outside of your relationship.
• The right to express your opinions and have them given the same respect and considerations as those of your partner.
• The right to have and express your sexual needs and desires without feeling guilty, demanding, selfish, or aggressive.
• The right to have your emotional, physical, intellectual, and economic needs be as important as the needs of your partner.
• The right to allow your partner to be responsible for their behavior rather than you being responsible for their behavior.
• The right to seek professional help.
• The right to NEVER be physically attacked, psychologically degraded, or verbally abused by your partner.
• The right to leave the relationship for a short or long time or to end the relationship if abuse occurs.
• The right to not blame yourself if the relationship in which you have invested so much love and effort is ended.

A friend sent me this list. It is indeed a pretty cool list.

Here is another list. Its a list of warning signs that your partner is an abuser.
- He gets too close to you when he's angry, puts a finger in your face, pokes you, pushes you, blocks your way or restrains you.
- He tells you that he is "just trying to make you listen."
- He raises a fist, towers over you, shouts you down, or behaves in any other way that makes you flinch or feel afraid.
- He makes vaguely threatening comments, such as, "You don't want to see me mad"
- He drives recklessly or speeds up when he's angry.
- He punches walls or kicks doors.
- He throws things around, even if they don't hit you.

Speaking of lists, I am starting a whole new kind of "to do" list. I am starting a list of things I want to do during my twenties. Most women who have survived their twenties, look back on them as a tough time, a learning time, a time they needed but wouldn't want to go through again. If they have to be tough (and they have been this far!) then I am going to live them. I am going to have fun discovering who I am. I am going to try things and do things with intention. I am going to be bold and daring and unique. My twenties may be tough, but they will be incredible!

Here are the first five of my list:
1. photograph a wedding
2. go back to school
3. learn to play the guitar
4. go skinny dipping (no boys allowed!)
5. see the counting crows in concert! (they'll be in KC in sept...its a girls night in the making:o)

I think of things to add all the time, so its gonna grow quickly!

Three lists that every woman should have...